Show + Tell: Eva Amurri Martino
I have been lucky enough to get to know Eva – better known as Happily Eva After – over the past few weeks leading up to a super fun EVENT on Wednesday, Jun 7 we are working on together. Eva is helping Little Spoon to co-host a beautiful evening discussing self-care and motherhood benefitting the Seleni Institute, a nonprofit organization that destigmatizes and transforms mental health and wellness by addressing real-life issues that challenge the emotional health of women, men and their families.
I love getting to know other power house parents rocking it out between parenthood, work and self care. Read on to learn more about Eva with some fun Q&A’s I threw her way. We hope you can join us on Jun 7!
What has been your biggest challenge being a mother of two?
Definitely learning how to balance my time between work, my husband, and each of my children– not to mention fitting some “Me Time” in there for myself! I often struggle with feeling guilty that one of my kids hasn’t gotten the individual attention they deserve that day. But I know for a fact that most Moms of multiple kids feel this way so I’m learning to live with it! At least they have each other!
If you could go back, what would you tell your pre-pregnancy self?
I think I’d try to explain that in Motherhood there is no such thing as control or perfection. Enjoying Motherhood is really all about being present in the moment, letting go, allowing some mistakes and not being too hard on yourself.
Do you believe mothers can find a true work-life balance? If so, how so? If not, why not?
I prefer the word “juggle” because it represents a bit more the chaos that exists when you’re trying to “have it all.” I think that you can have the things you want, but your framing of what that means has to shift. I have all the ingredients in my life that I’ve always wanted, but on any given day, the recipe is sometimes successful and sometimes not. Sometimes I need to add an extra dash of business and on others I have to make sure that time with my family is getting the upper hand. It’s a constant struggle, but I’m learning slowly to accept that just having the things I want in the mix (no matter how messy) is the real victory.
What are your top three ways that you practice self care?
I’ve realized recently that self care is really integral to my own mental well-being, and thus my ability to be the best mom I can be. When I allow myself certain feminine indulgences, my mood is elevated and I get the respite I need to recharge. For me that means getting my hair colored once every six weeks (begone greys!), getting my nails done at least every couple of weeks, and participating in a fun exercise class every week. These things remind me of my life pre-kids and make me feel sane! Oh and of course a glass of wine at the end of the day never hurt my mood!
Many moms complain about losing their sexy side when they become a mom. How do you nurture your sexy side?
I’m not going to lie, this becomes harder and harder. Besides all the body changes (nobody ever warned me that your children suck the life out of your boobs), the exhaustion, and the stress of raising kids while running a business, I find that having small children hanging on you and needing you physically all day long can really effect the way you feel about your own sexuality. For me sometimes the LAST thing I want at the end of the day is anybody else touching me! Ha! To combat this, I really try to separate kid time from the time I have with my husband. If we do date night, I like to create enough time with the sitter where we can go out a bit early before dinner and get a drink, relax, chat. Just so that by the time our actual dinner date roles around I’m feeling like a semi normal human woman. If I’ve had a tough day with the kids, sometimes I will spend some quiet time alone in the bath with a glass of wine or a magazine. It helps me switch gears without still feeling like I’m in Mom Mode.
And some quick ones!
Favorite bedtime story. This changes all the time! My daughter is really in to books and we are constantly discovering new favorites! Right now she’s loving “Giraffes Can’t Dance” and “In My Heart.”
Favorite food. Sushi–FOR SURE.
Favorite workout. I will always looooove yoga because I’m always in desperate need of a hefty side of calming vibes and stretching alongside my workout– but I also love taking Hip Hop Dance Classes!
Favorite drink. Wine– or a vodka martini, a little dirty, with extra olives
Favorite vacay. Any tropical beach vacation. My husband jokes that I really should have been born in the Carribean because the climate is where I’m happiest. I can’t disagree.